4 Boring Things Every Dom Should Do

Being a dom is undeniably fun. You get to watch your sub perform for you, working feverishly to fulfill your desires.  With the added bonus of punishing him/her if they fail to please you. Nonetheless, this comes with extra responsibilities that should not be neglected. It is why many doms liken their position to that of … Continue reading 4 Boring Things Every Dom Should Do


5 Guidelines for Subs Seeking Doms

Some people have said I was remiss for talking about subbing/domming without providing adequate warnings. I agree. I will consider this the most important post of this website. This post is for you, the guy/girl who has fantasied about bdsm and being a submissive and are taking steps to turn these fantasies into reality - when … Continue reading 5 Guidelines for Subs Seeking Doms

About us

Hi! I am Nic, boyfriend, soft toy, tickle buddy and dominant to Jane. Yep, somewhat like Fifty Shades of Grey. The last one might give you pause, especially when we are in conservative Asia. Being kinky comes with many negative connotations here, which we why we started this blog to share our thoughts on what … Continue reading About us

Roleplay to Sublife: Classifying the types of dom/sub relations

"Do you get to have sex anytime you want?" "Is Jane always tied up at home?" "Do you carry a whip with you?" While Jane and I avoid having our dom-sub lifestyle be the focal point of our relationship status, sometimes our kinks leak out. And when it does, we have to prepare for a barrage of questions. A central theme is how much of our life and relationship is dominated by this lifestyle.

5 Tips to Explore Kinky Fantasies with Your Vanilla Partner

We all have that feeling, no matter if it's a new or mature relationship. The thought of revealing your innermost desires can be a daunting one.  Whether it's telling your boyfriend he can (and should) choke you, or convincing your girlfriend that she looks amazing in that silky blindfold. So here are some tips for you … Continue reading 5 Tips to Explore Kinky Fantasies with Your Vanilla Partner